What is Forgiveness? #3

.Real Life example where false forgiveness did not occur

This (what I'm calling) "false forgiveness" runs very deep in all Christians, just as much in us as in the heterodox.
  
True Story told to me by Reader Daniel Everiss  ( Rdr Daniel was a victim of Fr. Herman sex predator.  What Daniel told me can be supported/verified by other witnesses:

 —  Fr. Herman was accused of being a homo-pervert-predator around the time of Fr. Seraphim's death.  I guess I'll tell this story chronologically .  .  .

  1.  I don't know exactly when Fr. Seraphim found out about Fr. Herman's sex crime escapades, whether it was before or after he was taken to the hospital.  But it was at that time.  It seems Fr. Seraphim did not have a chance to confront Fr. Herman before he went to the hospital.  As I recall from NOTW, 1st edition, Fr. Seraphim had kept to his cell for a day or more before he was found in a medical crisis.  Maybe he knew about Fr. Herman before he retreated to his cell to deal with his pain, but maybe he did not find out until he was being taken to the hospital or just after his operation.  Whatever, it is clear he knew it when he was in the hospital recovery room.

  2.  While Fr. Seraphim was on his death bed in the hospital, Fr. Herman was desperately begging Fr. Seraphim to forgive him.  Fr. Herman kept coming into his room each time tearfully begging, in a state of panic.   A number of people had gathered in Fr. Seraphim's room, at first still hoping for a full recovery — these people observed Fr. Herman and were witnesses.  Fr. Seraphim denied each of Fr. Herman's pleas one after another in front of all the gathered witnesses.

  One time Fr. Herman begged, Fr. Seraphim responded, as best he could, since he could hardly speak:  "I'm through with you."  Fr. Herman would go away wailing and then return again later to try again.
  Another time Fr. Seraphim responded, with eyes closed, barely able to speak: "I hate you.  I hate you.  I hate you."

  3.  Then very soon after Fr. Seraphim died, maybe a few days or a week, Bp. Anthony (Medvedev) did an investigation into the accusations against Fr. Herman for his sex crimes.  Several of Fr. Herman's victims and witnesses were gathered to testify.  Among those summoned was Rdr. Daniel Everiss, a victim, and it is from him only that I have any knowledge of what took place.  

 

    As of today, 2026, I know of one victim still alive.  A priest in the GOC.  And another victim, who, if he is still alive,  I think he would welcome being questioned.  There is a witness who is maybe still alive in the ROCOR-MP, I have the name.   Bp. Anthony charged everyone to never say anything to anyone about what was said during this investigation.  I would reveal the names I know to Vladyka Agafangel only. 

  At that investigation, Bp. Anthony did not want to believe the accusations.  He said it was not possible for an archimandrite to do such things.  But the testimony was indisputable.  To help support the accusations, one who had been present at Fr. Seraphim's death bed testified that Fr. Seraphim knew Fr. Herman was guilty.  And Fr. Herman all but admitted it by begging Fr. Seraphim to forgive him..  

  Bp. Anthony then, changing the subject, asked, "And did Fr. Seraphim forgive him?"
  The witness answered, "No."
  Then Bp. Anthony said, as a comment on the side, "Well, then, he can't be a saint." 

[This shows that very soon after Fr. Seraphim's death even the bishops were wondering if Fr. Seraphim is a saint.]

  But, the bishop was wrong.  Fr. Seraphim is a saint.